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Specialist, WisDen EduPark
are putting me on! Hey,
going for a date is a breeze, but an interview, boy - that can be
a nightmare – maybe akin to a blind date?
situation is the same – you want something/someone and you need
to make the best impression to achieve it.
take quick peek at what these two scenarios:
blind date and Maria’s first job interview.
“Oh please God, let me get this job. I need a job so badly, and at this point, anything will
“I hope I don’t mess this up.
I need a girlfriend – everybody thinks I’m weird
‘cos I don’t have one. “
is not easy to disguise one’s feeling of desperation.
Do not reflect on what you want to achieve at the end. Rather, stay focused on the situation that you will be
facing. Do not allow
desperation to show – it is a sure turn-off!
– First Impressions
“Oh, oh! The interviewer looks so stern. This is
going to be difficult.”
“Hey, I think we connected. She’s the dream girl
I’ve been waiting for.”
obviously appears to have gone on the negative and defensive mode
as she felt negative vibes from her interviewer. Sam, on the other
hand, appears very positive and feels that he has connected with
his date. It has been said that the first 10 seconds of meeting
someone for the first time creates a long-lasting impression.
And it is only natural that if there is no positive
connection from the very first moment, things may just either go
downhill steadily after that or you will need to put in
extraordinary effort to achieve what you want.
step – getting to know one another:
Maria becomes more confident as she is able to answer
the questions with specific examples as well as relate her
past successes. Sam
watches and listens very attentively to what his date is
saying. He is
getting to know her better through her narration of herself
and her past.
Q & A routine:
Maria is given the opportunity to also question her
interviewer about the position. She only has one question: “Though this is a marketing
position, will I get an opportunity to do actual sales?” Sam wants to know everything about his date and he
questions her about her likes, dislikes, hobbies, family etc.
“Do you like dancing?”
“Who is your favourite rock star?” “Which
football team do you support?”
you need to ask more specific details to make a more informed
decision whether you wish to pursue the position/person further.
As such, you may need to ask specific questions like what Sam did.
However, remember, your interviewer/date is not in a court,
so don’t sound like an interrogator!
asked why she is leaving her present position. Though she is actually
leaving because her company’s financial position is very bad but
she says “Well, I believe that the time is opportune for me to
further enhance my career and challenge myself to greater
the hand, becomes a bit uncomfortable when his date starts
bad-mouthing her last boyfriend.
it is not in the best of taste to bad-mouth former
creates an uncomfortable and unpleasant impression. Another very
critical give-away signal of the other party losing interest is
their body language such as looking away from you, looking at the
time, taking other calls, etc.
So keep a sharp look-out for these tell-tale signs.
Don’t let the situation drift away from you!
Maria is quite confident that her interview went well, she is very
worried because she has been told that there are three other
candidates for the same position. She starts to think about her
completion and feels that perhaps they are better qualified.
She starts sinking into a new level of depression. She is
informed that the decision would be made by end of the week.
very happy with his date. He
compares her with all the other women he knows. He told his date he will call her next week.
is only natural that we compare ourselves with others.
Though this can work positively, but there is a high
possibility that this could work against us especially when we
start off on a desperate mode such as Maria and Sam.
You must always be proud of yourself and be confident of
your strengths and positive qualities.
biting her toes and nails, waiting for the interviewer to call.
Sam can’t wait for next week to call his date.
for the call is the most difficult part of either situation.
You will just have to be patient and carry on with your
other routine while waiting for this to happen.
weeks later: “Ms Maria, you have been offered the position
of Marketing Executive.”
calls his date the next week and she is excited to see him
both these situations ended positively though it did not appear
that they could. Though both Maria and Sam started on a desperate
mode but they took stock of the situation, managed to get their
act together and achieved their aims.
Where Sam’s relationship will go or how successful Maria
will be at her new job, is something that both them will have to
remember that not all blind dates or job interviews end
positively. If one fails, just move on.
There is no time to blame yourself or others. Do not look for faults, rather just take it positively and
look forward to the next date/interview.